After the Fall General Conference of
The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints, I felt like one of the messages for me was to be kinder to myself. I know that what I think I
should do and what I actually
can do are not always the same...so why do I make myself feel guilty when the two don't match?
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| My "craft room" after I cleaned up. Yikes! |
For example, knowing that I was behind on my
Quilt Along, I came home ON TIME rather than 2 hours late from school and decided to sit down and work on the
wall hanging section of the quilt. I knew that I
should be able to complete the whole thing in 2 hours before I needed to pick up the kiddos from daycare. But then reality hit. I needed to move the laundry from my craft room (notice I
didn't say fold), find my sewing machine in the storage room, and then locate my scissors, and don't forget to look for the pins that were for some reason up on a book shelf in the living room. Then I needed to vacuum up that spider, and search for my seam ripper. And once I got everything together, it was time to pick up the kids. I just couldn't do what I wanted. It's wasn't
can versus
should, it was
can't versus
should--and it left me feeling awful.
I wish I had a magical story to tell here and how a fairy godmother came and made everything alright and I finished the quilt wall hanging on time, and cooked a gourmet dinner, and had a spotless house, and folded that laundry, and created the perfect lesson plan for the next day. But that's a lie.
I know that I have a hard time balancing all of the good and better things in my life, and that it's difficult to choose what's best. Some days I
can do it all, some days I feel like I
should do it all, and some days I fall apart and cry because
none of it happened at all.
The point of this ramble is that I accomplished something. And that may not be much to you, but it makes me happy. It makes me proud. And I did it just for me.
So, this is me celebrating what I
can do.
I
can make flying geese using a no waste method.
I
can create perfect half-square triangles.
I
can learn a new quilt block called the "switch and flip".
I
can find time to finish the wall hanging section of my quilt.
I
can acknowledge that my family comes first, and my job come shortly after that--but I am important!
I
can understand that while I may not be able to grade tests coherently after 10 pm, I apparently have no problem quilting after 10 pm.
I
can apologize because I am NOT a social person while quilting. (Sorry, Nate.)
I
can enjoy hot cocoa and quilting at the same time.
I
can finish what I started out to do without feeling guilty about the time it took.
I can do hard things.